The M.I.R.A.C.L.E. Mindset Method™
L- Love Yourself like a Gigi & Love Yourself First
Love Yourself Like A Gigi
Six magical hours had a huge impact on me. My granddaughters, Jesslynn, 7, and Brooklynn, 4, stayed the night and we had a great time! On Sunday, I had so much work to do and I planned on doing things after they left after church, however they wanted to stay and play in the jacuzzi. I couldn’t say no because I wanted to be with them, so I chose them. We stayed in that jacuzzi for 6 beautiful hours, watching the clouds and imagining what they looked like – that one looks like an alligator, that one looks like a puppy. We spoke about why some clouds are white and others are dark, so we discussed the rain cycle. Brooklynn slapped the pool’s surface, and we watched the ripples create waves that hit the wall and returned to us, so we talked about energy and how when you say or do something nice, it creates and has a rippling effect, and it always comes back to you, just as if you do or say something not nice, it will come back to you. When they explained something to me, I would compliment them on their intelligence. They would occasionally come out and do cartwheels, and I would cheer and celebrate them. At the end of the day, they said, “Gigi, this was the best day ever!” My heart swelled. That day, I chose them and gave them my presence, I empowered them with words, and I celebrated them.
The following week, I was in a Truth session where we talked about deep-seated anger and hurt. I was talking about a family member who had hurt me when it struck me – like a God’s wink – what if I could love them like a Gigi. A Gigi love is unconditional, patient, and accepting; it is pure love. Brooklynn could have farted in my face and I would have laughed, but if this person had- it would have been war. If I could love them like a Gigi, I could forgive, and forgiveness allows you to heal.
A week or so later I was celebrating myself as I had made that tweak on how I loved them – like a Gigi and I felt amazing about the relationship. I stopped judging them and simply loved them as they were. Then I thought, another God’s Wink – What if I could love myself like a Gigi? What if I could choose me with my attention, stop beating myself up, and celebrate everything. I actually started crying at that thought. If I could love myself like I love my grandchildren…..maybe I could forgive myself and heal. What if you loved yourself like a Gigi?
The greatest gift you can give someone is your presence, your time, and your attention- when you give yourself to someone, they feel loved and worthy of receiving that gift. Just like I gave my grand daughters all my attention in that jacuzzi because I chose to spend time with them. They thrive when they have attention. Do you notice most people thrive when they have attention? What if you gave yourself the ultimate gift of your presence? What if you Choose you! Whether it’s mediating, going for a walk to think, reading, writing, just being with yourself. How much would you thrive with such attention? I encourage you to love you and Choose you!
As a Gigi, The second gift is empowerment. Using empowering words to build them up and never beat them up. . Do you tell a baby, “What – you can’t walk yet- you’re such a loser!” You drew outside the lines—you’re a moron! “No way!” We say, “Way to go!” You are quite intelligent! Beautiful colors! You are incredible! When kids strike out in baseball, we tell them, “It’s okay, you’ll hit next time!” We give powerful language because we want them to feel loved and feel good about themselves. Wouldn’t it be fantastic if you could talk to yourself in that manner all the time? Instead – oh no, I screwed that up. I’m such a loser! We told ourselves, “You did it! You are extremely brave! I am so proud of you. I encourage you to embrace Empowering language for yourself in the same way that a Gigi does.”
The third gift a Gigi gives is celebration. We celebrate others when they do something right. When potty training little ones, I would celebrate big time when they went in the potty! I’d say.” You went poo poo in the potty? YES!” I would do the poo poo in the potty dance. You cheer loudly when they hit the ball and get on base, and if they hit a home run, they have to stop you from running out onto the field to pick them up because you are so thrilled for them. My granddaughter reads to me. I celebrate each page, each long word she gets. WOW! She loves to read to me. Celebration helps them feel loved and valuable! What if you made a point of celebrating yourself? Turn around and rejoice when you go poo poo in the potty – Yes! Catch yourself doing something right and celebrate it like a Gigi! Can you imagine how you’d feel if you were celebrated all day?
I believe that if everyone loved themselves and loved everyone else like a Gigi, we would have world peace!
Those six magical hours led me to this simple share: Love yourself like a Gigi – choose you, empower you and celebrate you….Be your own Gigi!!!!!!!
Love Yourself First!
I believe in the bible when it states God first, spouse second, family third, career – and everything will fall into place. I did that and things went great until I got diagnosed. Through all my learning… I now feel the bible verse is very accurate if you remember that God is within you so when you put God first – we must put ourselves first by loving our body, our mind, and emotional self. Treat your body to massages, chiropractic care, and exercise. Love your mind to protect from negativity and treat it to mentors who can strengthen your mindset…like you are doing right now! Love yourself enough to have unconditional forgiveness for yourself first and then everyone else. When you love yourself first- you can love and serve others even more. When I finally started to love myself first and it is still a work in progress, I find I am able to let things flow in and out much better. If I keep a negative thought in – that hurts me- it hurts God cause He is within me. I can finally hold boundaries around negative people and can say no if it does not resonate with my heart. I serve in many capacities; my family, my team, my community, and as a trainer for Tony Robbins, and I am able to serve out of love with my heart instead of responsibility or fear of missing out. It really is a huge distinction. When I serve out of responsibility or fear of missing out- the task can become draining, yet when I serve from the love, I get energized cause it’s feeding my heart of service. I am in no way saying love only you- in fact, I am saying love yourself first so you can serve others even more and love others even more.
Get in your heart space.
This is my interpretation of what Greg Braden said on Youtube. The heart is 500 times more magnetic than the brain. When you put your hand on your heart, you activate that energy and can understand from the heart. When you have an issue, use your heart to solve it. When you try to solve an issue with your head, you may eventually figure it out, however, your heart can feel the solution far faster since it is 500 times more powerful.
In the caveman days when they left the cave, they had three options: freeze, fight, or flight. The only time they could relax was in the cave, so deep breaths would relax them since they were safe, therefore we are wired in this way. Deep breathing signals the brain to release feel-good and relaxing chemicals. When you’re agitated or trying to figure things out, put your hands on your heart and take 7 deep breaths. You’ll be surprised at how grounded and at peace you’ll feel. (7 is a biblical number). When I’m preparing to speak or lead a large room of 600 or 30 people, I do this. When I need to de-stress after interacting with an upset person, I do this. When I am in my heart space, I first love myself because I am more powerful and can lead others from there. As I enter the room or zoom room, I also send love to others from my heart. I want others to feel loved and good enough.
“Love is God in manifestation and the strongest magnetic force in the universe. Pure, unselfish love draws itself to it’s own; it does not need to seek or demand.” – Florence Scovel Shinn.
Love Life!
I have a belief and Joe Dispenza says it all the time. If you love life, it will love you back. If you love life, your subconscious mind goes to work to bring things in your life to make you feel loved. I sometimes do a love flood in the mornings when I wake up. I say to myself, I love my blanket, I love my bed, I love my hubby, I love my kids, I love my grandkids, I love my doggie, I love my mom, I love my family, I love trees, I love my yard, I love my home, I love my team, I love my agency, I love my clients, I love my church friends, I love my Rotary friends, I love my BNI friends, I love my Tony Tribe, I love my friends…and I go on and on. I love butterflies so I see them in the most bizarre places. I love catching the time at the same numbers like, 11:11, 3:33, 5:55 – I feel they are angelic numbers and it’s God’s way of winking at me. Funny a few seconds ago I saw 5:55 so I googled it and it means.”it’s a sign from your Guardian Angel that change is on the way! These important changes will bring you the results you desire and will also reveal your life purpose and soul mission. By regularly showing you this number pattern, your angels are urging you to free yourself from your apprehensions and uncertainties”. I do feel like I am doing my life’s purpose and soul mission. I started this website almost a year ago yet I let uncertainty and apprehension get in the way and I had to overcome that and realize if I just help one person…..all the hours I spent on this will be worth it. This is how I am loving myself. I am giving my wisdom to serve others.
The Ho’oponopono Prayer
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian forgiveness and reconciliation practice. It’s more than just praying; it’s a process of healing your relationships with others, ancestors, deities, the environment, and oneself. It is the act and aim of creating a safe space for introspection, repentance, forgiveness, and thankfulness. The underlying principle of this practice is that we are all responsible for what happens in our world. We are responsible for our feelings and experiences. So, even if someone else has offended us, we are the ones who are expressing “I apologize. Please forgive me…” The essence of this practice is unity: despite our seeming separation, an unbreakable bond connects you to everyone else.
In this prayer, four forces are at work: repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. The phrases, which you can repeat in any order, silently or aloud, are as follows:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
I encourage you to take a mirror, look into your eyes and repeat over and over until you can feel the connection with your heart, your soul and truly forgive and love yourself. This can be powerful healing to yourself. I at times imagine my soul saying it to the soul of the person who hurt me. Very powerful healing to heal yourself and their souls at the same time.